The real “danger” of love between a Chinese woman and a foreign man is that it doesn’t ultimately go anywhere, the women I talked to said.
“Democracy also has its own problems.” Sally, 23, who would only like to be known by her English name, dated a German soldier two years ago when she was an exchange student in Germany.
She met him at a party, and developed feelings for him after learning he had carried out missions in Afghanistan. Sally ended the relationship, and started a new one with a Swedish citizen who is ethnically Chinese after she moved back to Shanghai.
Unlike some other young couples, Jean said, they talked a lot about serious topics, including Chinese politics.
“I wondered how he thought as a foreigner,” she said, and her ex wanted to know the same.
During a date, he declared “Mao is a dictator,” Xu recalled.
It was interesting at first for Xu to learn about Spanish culture from her ex-boyfriend, she said, especially after feeling she had nothing to talk about with Chinese guys in her age because “everything is familiar.” But the remark about China’s former leader, Mao Zedong, was too alien, she said. She’s not happy about the word “dictator,” because that makes Mao the equivalent to Adolf Hitler or Joseph Stalin, Xu explained.
Women I've interviewed between the ages of 40 and 70 largely believe men their age are interested in dating someone their own age.
Studies show older men prefer youth and beauty first for mate selection and women choose men who offer resources and stability.
To read information about these topics from outside China’s borders, her boyfriend need to use a VPN service.