Not just the dates themselves, but the endless emails you end up sending before you even go on a date.I could use that time to find a cure for something serious, I reasoned , or take up trampolining.
A couple of months later I’d got bored of trampolining and my thesis on illnesses in general was going nowhere.
I’d also conveniently forgotten that I hate online dating.
One bloke gets binned because he’s wearing a trilby, while another one makes the cut because his dog looks charismatic.
I matched with Charismatic Dog Man, Hot Greek Man and Nice Beard Man, which was flattering, and made me feel like I’d won at a game I didn’t know I was playing.
So, the next guy I matched with, I asked out for a drink, just like that.
He wasn’t working very far from me, and we were both free so opted to meet up that evening.I decided to get stuck straight in with some messages – after all instant, snappy interaction is the name of the game. ” Despite my initial boldness, I lost my bottle a bit when it came to suggesting an actual drink. Which meant that 70 per cent of my Tinder matches were contractually obliged to ask me if I wanted to meet up later that evening.My openers weren’t exactly Shakespearean – “nice dog,” “nice beard,” and “are you Greek? Soon I was engaging in mindless and inane chat with five different blokes. Instead, the conversation dragged on, and by early evening I was getting Tinder fatigue. One was really quite persistent actually – asking me if I wanted to meet up at 8pm, 10.30pm, and midnight and again at 2am. ” asked a (coupled up) friend, wrinkling her nose in disgust – before announcing that Tinder probably wouldn’t be for her. It’s fairly obvious that a significant proportion of users are in it for a hook up – but I’d wager not as many as are on, say, Craigslist (which has a Casual Encounters section for that very purpose).But after much agonising (by which point, both the men in question had moved on to less neurotic Tinderers) I decided I was being irrational – whether you meet someone online, in a bar or through friends, how are you ever going to really know why they’re there beforehand?Anyway, unlike traditional online dating, Tinder is meant to be a fuss free, quick and simple to meet new people, and I’d turned it into a long-winded palaver.Fully primed, and in need of a distraction, I download the app and check out my recommendations.