Click here to learn more about e-Cyrano and please share your thoughts below about the effects of a good (or bad) profile. In my experience, and perhaps it’s not typical, but when I had written fairly lengthy profiles, say, 4 or 5 paragraphs detailing some of my hobbies and achievements, he types of hopes I had for the future, detailing a short but easy-to-meet list of the type of woman I’d like to meet, among positive happy thoughts, many woman couldn’t be bothered to read it.
Some of them messaged me solely to tell me my profile was too long.
You are are looking for something they might not really get in their normal lives.
And then…as soon as you are hooked and in love…I RUN LIKE MAD! Love the outdoors, Mother Nature and concrete jungles.
When I talk about how much online dating profiles matter, the immediate pushback is that people are all about photos and that profiles don’t matter at all. It’s like saying that a 1.9 GPA wouldn’t matter if you had a 1300 SAT score. A great profile is what will make someone choose you over the scores of other similarly attractive people.
I cut it down by a paragraph and took out anything I felt was superfluous, but kept the most interesting aspects of my life in there. My response rate and and the rate at which women messaged me, stayed the same.
It was kind of a bummer to think that I put all that effort into letting someone know how fun, positive, and relationship-oriented I could be for them and it didn’t matter one bit.
You are the person meant to be helping the woman make up her mind, with your confident and energetic profile. Your must draw them out of their comfort zone and not keep them there. Go against the grail and avoid the porno approach most guys would take. Tell the truth about yourself in the most exciting way that you can. You lay all your cards on the table and they see you in all your glory. If she sniffs anything funny about you she’s out of there!
Say enough about yourself but still leave enough room for more to be discovered. Give them something to chew on and draw them in slowly. A good way to create a cool profile is to think of celebrities women go gaga about and borrow a thing or 2 from them. A cute face and decent body will get you in the door.Just think about it for a second: I’m browsing women online. I don’t have the bandwidth to write to 50 women at once, much less at all. The attractive woman with the best profile, not the most attractive woman with the shittiest profile. They are largely stupid, shallow men, so you need not worry about them.determines if a woman should consider talking to you or if you are just a waste of her time.The fact that she is not looking for commitment does not mean she would just settle for any dude with an available pecker.So let’s agree that everyone online is driven by looks first, and that everyone of substance actually cares who you are and what you have to say.