Don’t Be Afraid To Chaperone Our advice is always insist on a chaperone. Sure, they can watch a movie by themselves, but a parent should be there to pick them up afterwards.
Sure, he knew this gap was normal for teenagers and their parents. “Okay,” he replied, “I’ll take that for an answer . Although it’s uncomfortable, he’s definitely on the right track.
But he wasn’t ready yet to surrender his role as a parent. Just what role should parents play to steer a child away from the traps in the most popular sport for many teens—the dating game? For us, dating or courting is a small part of the overall process of determining God’s will for discovering your life partner in marriage.
The following information and advice can help you make smart, age-appropriate decisions with your child.
Define The Limits What does a “date” mean to your tween?
He hoped the conversation he was about to initiate would help close that gap. ” he asked, struggling to disguise the wobble he felt in his voice. Bill gripped the steering wheel and shot a glance into her eyes. Bill and his wife had talked before with Julie about God’s standards about sex, but soon she would be dating and making moral choices on her own. They were just a block from home, so gently but firmly, Bill pressed the final question: “Well then, would you mind telling me how far you intend to go? ” He stopped the car a few feet short of the driveway and feigned a look into the mailbox. If he had waited for a month, he wouldn’t have been ready for what she said. In our family the focus has not been on dating, but more on training our teens in their character and in how to develop a relationship with the opposite sex.
He had prayed for an opportunity to talk to her alone—without her three brothers around. “Oh, okay,” Julie replied, in cryptic teenage fashion. “Have you thought through how far you are going to go, physically, with the opposite sex? They wanted to encourage her to make the right ones. He knew his wife always got the mail, but Julie was acting like a basketball team ahead by one point in the fourth quarter, hoping the clock would run out. Our teens do not go out on a date every Friday and Saturday night.
If your child does not want to go on a date or is not interested in the opposite sex, this is completely normal.
Going on dates is usually a behavior within a particular peer group.
Teach Your Child Boundaries Talk to your child about their expectations and how to handle certain situations.
For example, you should talk to your child about not doing anything he or she does not want to do, how to say no, how to act with dignity, how to respect other people’s wishes, and how to get out of an uncomfortable situation.
By having an ongoing dialogue with your child from an early age, many “tween problems” never ever raise their ugly head!