That’s when I understood what it was to be in that role, to be someone’s bitch, essentially.
And, unlike the 23-year-old who gets tanked and throws shade at your ex, she’s got class. I once went out with a young man from Queens who only dated older women because younger ladies, he found, couldn’t do a thing without checking in with 15 of their friends.
In fact, your ex will likely friend her on FB (like my old bf’s ex-wife did). When you date a younger woman, he said, you also date all her friends, and it’s “a pain in the fucking ass.” You can’t just go out and do your own thing because she must receive approval from a larger governing body.
“As a dude, I’m told that I’m supposed to date girls my own age and take care of them, pay for dinner, and so on.
But for that period of time, the roles were reversed. And it felt great—who doesn’t want to be taken care of?
But you’re in luck — she’s going to be attracted to you before you even open your mouth. It’s going to end eventually, so don’t talk about a relationship with her. Don’t talk about your feelings and emotions and how you’re falling for her unless she does it first. She’s looking to enjoy herself because most of the men in her age range are not in the physical shape she desires and are already broken and destroyed. In order to succeed, she probably had to be smarter than the men around her.
She is drawn to you for the same reason so many men chase younger women: she is attracted by your youthful enthusiasm. If you are just a boy toy she turns to for sex, she will get bored with you quickly.
She loves your appetite for life and is intoxicated by your ambition and the fact that so much of your life is ahead of you. If you have goals and tell her about them, it will definitely turn her on.
She enjoys the fact that you’re not tainted and broken like many of the men her age. Older women have an extremely sensitive bullshit detector, so be 100% honest all of the time. If you want to have sex with her but don’t want to be her boyfriend, tell her. Believe me when I say your older woman is well aware of the age difference between you. If she brings it up, tell her your heart doesn’t care how old she is.
She had access to a world I didn’t, and she had done all the things I hadn’t done yet,” he said.
Now he’s in his mid 40s, and married with a kid, and remembers that relationship as critical to making him the man he is now.
We literally talked for 20 minutes and then went and had sex.