In their defense, I hardly grew up dating or crushing on men close to my age group.
I save and invest my money; I've never been married and I have no kids. My father was a businessman who ran a successful chiropractor practice.
I had a normal childhood, but I have been living in the “adult world” since I was a kid. I was around adults all my life — events, parties, meetings — so I really knew it no other way.
Here are a list of pros and cons to consider if you decide to date older: Whether it's in his career, knowledge acquired overtime, relationships or even in the bedroom, this man knows what he's doing and knows what he wants.
He's confident and can teach you a thing or two with his advice. This is great for me, since I am a whirlwind during the week and it balances me out.
What about Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, who were 16 years apart when they were married?
Or, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones, who are 25 years apart in age?
I still get the common response from my friends: “He's too old for you! ” I've also had a few people in my life suggest that I do it because I am a “gold digger.”So, the broad answer is this: To clarify, I'm not dating older men because I am a “gold digger.” It's more important for me to pull my own weight and be financially stable.
I have nothing against guys my age; I have tried dating them, but I have constantly come across the following:– They're not ambitious enough, or they don’t have a go-getter attitude.– They're not financially stable.– They still want to date around.– They have had baby mama or ex-wife drama.– They don't have their sh*t together.
The only thing probably missing in my life is a partner, a published book and an owned property… To elaborate even further, I'm an only child, and growing up, I never had many close friends. I was teased and picked on a lot from the kids at school. I guess that's where I began the attraction for the older man type, and it used to freak my mother out.
I never babysat the kids in my neighborhood once; I couldn't relate to kids at all. I would crush on older guys when I was 13, but I really didn't start actually dating an older guy until I was 26; he was 40.
He may be older, but he's learned a lesson or two about making money, saving money and balancing his checkbook. He's been through multiple ups and downs in relationships, and his feelings are in check. With endless kisses, hugs and soft lit candles, he goes the distance to make sure you are happy and satisfied.