Why: Are they very involved with their family of origin?
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When you were little, what did you dream of being when you grew up?
What’s the luckiest thing that’s ever happened to you?
I’d like to help you out before that next big dinner or coffee by offering some creative first date questions you can use if you need to stir up conversation.
What’s the most embarrassing thing that happened to you in elementary school? If your house was on fire, what’s the first thing you’d grab to save?
The game was silly and creative, and gave viewers some playful ways to interact with the opposite sex.
The Dating Game can provide hours of entertainment for you and your friends, as well as provide creative new questions for you to use on dates.
Keeping the conversation going can be difficult if you are shy, or are dating someone who is self-conscious, so pulling out a few favorites can help you get through any uncomfortable moments.
These questions can also spice up conversations with someone you have been dating for a while, to give additional insight into their personality, background, and preferences.
If you try to be too careful with what you say, this is likely to backfire.
Why: Whatever you're really passionate about, do they respect it? If you jump to an assumption that they have the same politics as you, they might feel too awkward to say that their politics are different. To take some of the pressure off during first dates, remind yourself: (a) that you each have 50% of the responsibility for how the conversation flows, and (b) you can only control how someone reacts to you to a limited extent.
This might not be important to you, but it might be. Why: The main point here is not to jump to assumptions about your date's politics. Why: If your date is exploring a relationship with someone else you might want to push pause at the end of your first date but offer them the opportunity to get back in touch with you if the other relationship doesn’t work out. Especially in the age of internet dating, people sometimes meet multiple people they’re interested in around the same time.