Still, the overwhelming majority of believers will only share that relationship with one person in their entire lives.
How are we to relate to everyone else (especially believers), and how does that question inform the topic of premarital sexual activity?
Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of Scott's first article in this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 4: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » Quite a few Boundless readers asked questions or made comments about my statement in "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating" that "biblical dating assumes outside of marriage that Scripture explicitly prohibits?
Boundaries for dating
Knowing this limitation eliminates verbal boxing matches. Unlike the singing talent show, we don't eliminate our sons or daughters. We remember their dreams, cheering their wins and comforting their losses.
Each week one or more contestants are sent home until the last two compete in the finale.
Michael Lawrence and other able Boundless authors have written before about the wonderful gift of sex, so I won't belabor the point except to repeat that the Scripture passages on sex, taken together, make very clear that God instituted sex for purposes of procreation, pleasure, intimacy, holiness and — ultimately — for His glory.
God instituted sex within marriage as part of His design of the family (Genesis ).
In 1 Corinthians 7:3 and following, Paul says once we are married, our bodies literally belong to our spouse; he also instructs spouses to meet one another's sexual needs and to be together regularly so as to protect ourselves from falling into ungodly lust and extramarital sexual activity.
If you have any doubts about God's intention to give us sex as a wonderful, pleasurable gift, Song of Songs should put them to rest.
I'll start by putting my position right on the line: kissing is OK.
We need to address the whole spectrum ("just kissing" included). First, the fact that "romantically oriented" is in italics above is important.
If you feel like trust was broken, a lock down may be necessary. Each week contestants never know what their challenge would be.
If the door has been wide open, it's okay to shut it, a little, a lot, or completely.
Regardless of their performance, our sons and daughters need to know we love them — unconditionally. When your daughter messes up by getting a speeding ticket, support her. Because you can comfort and guide her through her mistake. As they demonstrate responsibility, allow more freedom.